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Zen Habits (Leo Babauta) - Japanese


我々の目標として設定し、我々に関係なく、後にしているものは、当社または当社の目標をすることができる: naysayers 、反対するにしている私たちは皆、腹を立てる人や楽しい突くか我々はそれができない人々教えて下さい。

我々の目標として設定し、我々に関係なく、後にしているものは、当社または当社の目標をすることができる: naysayers 、反対するにしている私たちは皆、腹を立てる人や楽しい突くか我々はそれができない人々教えて下さい。



  1. 最初にそれらを識別するために学ぶ。 Sometimes we don’t realize that someone is being a detractor。 They may be a close friend or spouse or other trusted person, so when they scoff or say negative things, we trust them and take it to heart。 But there’s a difference between being realistic and just being a naysayer。 Learn to listen to what others are saying, and see what your reaction is。 If it discourages you, makes you feel like quitting, then maybe this person is being a detractor。
  2. 有効な点がある場合はを参照してください。 Like I said, sometimes they are just trying to be realistic。 They might have a good reason for their negativity。 Step back, objectively think about whether they are bringing up a real obstacle that must be overcome, and if so, figure out how to overcome it。 It’s rarely insurmountable。 If you want it enough, you can figure out a solution。 Now, if they don’t have a valid point, read on。
  3. ザップは否定的な考えを彼らはあなたを与える。 Detractors have a way of taking their negative thoughts and transferring them to you。 Suddenly, there’s a seed of doubt。 And it can grow into a huge oak tree of doubt, with roots that tear up the foundation of your goals。 Stop those negative thoughts as soon as possible。 Push them out, and think positive thoughts instead。 Don’t let them overcome you。
  4. 実現には必ず反対になるだろうとしておくのに水が好きなのはアヒルの背中を外す。 In every person’s life, there will be at least one detractor, if not more。 You cannot completely avoid them。 But you don’t need to listen to them。 Just smile, and let them talk。 Their words cannot stop you。 They have no effect on you if you ignore their words。
  5. 直面し、お客様の側にそれらを取得。 Sometimes the detractor is someone close to you, someone you cannot ignore。 If so, it’s best to enlist the help of this person instead of fighting against them。 Do this as early as possible。 Tell them that this goal is very important to you, and you cannot do it without their help。 Tell them that you realize they have doubts, but you really need them to be positive, and support you。 They can be your best ally, instead of your worst detractor。
  6. 彼らと笑う。 Sometimes people are uncomfortable when you make a change, and so in order to ease this discomfort, they will make jokes or tease you。 This probably has less to do with you than it does with their discomfort。 They don’t know how else to deal with this change。 Realize this, and just laugh。 If you take it as a good-natured joke, sometimes this will disarm them。 They may continue to make jokes, but it won’t be as tense and won’t have as much an effect on you if you just keep laughing。
  7. 反論を準備して知らせる。 Sometimes people are just misinformed。 They might have misunderstandings about what you are doing。 Know all of their arguments, and the common potential arguments, and have counterarguments ready。 Do your research, and be very informed。 Then try to educate your detractor。 If you do it right, with a positive, sincere attitude, you might actually get the person to listen, and perhaps even change their mind。 If not, at the very least you know better, and you don’t let their arguments create doubt in your mind。
  8. 知識で安全に行われることは何か良いことがあります。 Sometimes there’s nothing you can do。 You can’t win them over, you can’t avoid them, you can’t laugh with them。 So you have to just ignore them, and keep telling yourself that when you do achieve your goal, that will be your reward for enduring this detractor。

Again, there will always be detractors in your life。 But they are just more obstacles that you have to overcome to get to your goal。 There will always be obstacles, but if you think positive, and seek solutions, you can beat them (or get them to join you)。


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